Friends (Not) Forever

You're probably thinking that I'll go on a rant about how a friend betrayed me and how the end was a terrible mess.

Nah. I'm not about that rant life.

Let's be realistic here. Friends have ZERO obligations to us. They are not obliged, nor have they put ink to paper, to be here for you in your so-called "darkest times" and "happiest hours".

Most of us keep our problems to ourselves, and yet the ironic thing is, we expect our friends to know our problems immediately - like how Superman knew Lois Lane was in danger through his psycho powers - and then come forth to rescue us from the tumbling debris.

Well, ladies and gentlemen, here I present to you the irony of human nature.

Fact of the matter is, friends aren't meant to be there for you always. They can only be there if you can stop expecting everyone else to be Superman and actually share your troubles. We are all humans; and not everyone is naturally fantastic at reading minds nor expressions. If we were, we would actually do it for a living instead of entertaining just one person at no profit...

Friends have their own stuff to attend to. You aren't the only person in the world that he or she cares about, even if you are the closest of friends.

So no, I strongly disagree with all those cheesy and repetitive Twitter/Tumblr quotes about how "true friends brave the storm with you". Sometimes we all have to rely on ourselves a bit more. Yes, having friends that actually care and want to bear the burden with you is great, but it should never come to a point where you get pissed because your friend hasn't arrived at your aid.

What is "true" friendship to me then?

Well, my definition of such a friendship is simple: as long as you can sustain a conversation easily, enjoy each other's company and communicate often enough over a respectable period of time, then to me, that's pretty genuine. You don't have to be there for your friend always, and neither does he or she have to. As long as whenever you need that occasional push and your friend tries his or her best to help, that's enough to me. True friends will never come to you 100% of the time, but you can depend on them to try their best WHEN CALLED UPON. Yes, I emphasise a lot on actually voicing out.

Silento, contrary to popular belief, doesn't actually make you whip and nae nae; you would probably do better being unSilento.

Okay that was such a diabolical line.

So guys, in a nutshell, don't expect too much. It's reality, it's practicality. If I had 10 "true friends", and they all had trouble at the same time, I can only do this much. Bear that in mind, and be real, forgiving and thoughtful. Only the best of friendships can withstand such mutual understanding.

To all the estranged friends, sadly, our mutuality wasn't Hulk-worthy.

Song of the day:

周杰倫 - 聽見下雨的聲音
(Cheena, cheena, cheena. Whatever. I like this one.)


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