We are human, and we are all scared of being ignored. It's part of life's pursuit for attention, for care, for just that... sense of belonging.

But at the same time, we just need space. Big space, small space, MySpace (which is, coincidentally, quite empty and spacious right now).

I get it. It's a see-saw. It's a tug-of-war between attention and space.

There are times when you just feel like you crave for that attention. It can be from a certain person, from a certain group of people, or from your pet dolphin. And it is perfectly alright to want to feel like you matter to someone or some people. It gives you that warm, fuzzy feeling.

There are also other times when you need the space, to shut yourself away from the people you love, you care. The group of people that you find that you crave attention from can also be the same group of people that you just feel like slapping and shoving away. You just don't feel it anymore, but the next day, you go back crawling to them.

It's a vicious cycle.

But, when you spend time alone, you will matter to yourself. You may not matter to others, you may drive others mad or you may even cause a breakdown in relationship with others (which I... well I'm not proud to say that I have done it before). But you will matter to yourself. You ensure that you treat yourself well, even if it is at the expense of others.

I'm not campaigning for a world of self-engrossed people, but for people to be more self-loving and stop craving for attention. Just be yourself. There's a quote that goes "just be yourself, because those who mind do not matter, and those who matter do not mind". It's a great quote, because then you won't find yourself trying to squeeze in. If they love you, it's because they love you for who you are.

So if you find yourself not well-liked amongst a group of people (like me), then move on. Why bother with plastic people that will ditch you when you're at your darkest, and chase after you when you're at your best?

And if you find yourself loved, adored, then treasure it. Treasure those around you, because they friggin love you for being you. You are funny, you are adorable, you are amazing. And this group of people appreciates that.

So, matter to yourself first. Only then will you matter to others.

But of course, disclaimer here: if you find yourself not well-liked everywhere, then something is terribly wrong. You need to change for the better, because realistically-speaking, with an unpopular personality everywhere (I'm talking about extremities here), there needs to be reconsiderations done. I'm all for "being you", but society filters the extremes.

Song of the day:

Ed Sheeran - All Of The Stars