But I found something very cringe-worthy and I thought I would share it.
First of all, disclaimer: I do not hate on couples that share their love life on social media. I think it's completely fine! It's good to show the world how happy you are, and I'd do that if I had a partner too.
What makes me cringe and gets on my nerve is how extensive this whole thing can get.
Okay, we get it, you both are in love. So much so that Whatsapp conversations become translated onto Twitter and both of you just retweet each other every hour. You post an Instagram picture on both of you kissing every single day.
It makes me cringe. A lot.
I think social media is the reason for the breaking down of relationships. Disclaimer, my definition of social media is not Whatsapp, because it's still a one-to-one communication. My idea of social media is open platforms, like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Even YouTube.
When you update your followers (forced or not) about how much you love your partner and would kiss him or her repeatedly under the sun for 14 hours, it may embarrass your partner a bit. While it certainly cringes people like me, it may make your partner feel uncomfortable that everything is... too public.
Secondly, there's this pressure to "look good" in front of your followers. You may feel like there's a need to present both of you well, that everything is alright, when truth is, it isn't alright sometimes. There's always an occasional tiff, but because you are so attached to social media, everyone puts the pressure on you to show them a picture of you and your partner faking a smile.
And social media then makes break ups even more dramatic. I have seen countless times people deleting pictures with their ex on Instagram, unfollowing them on Twitter. It becomes clear immediately that something has ended. And then you embark on a bitch fit about how he or she was a person that you loved so much but he or she chose to betray you or not love you as much. And then dozens of followers will attempt to console you, but you just feel worse.
If I had a partner, I would occasionally share about us on Twitter, but less so on Instagram. Why? Because once you break up, the WHOLE WORLD knows. Everyone will come asking "hey where is your girlfriend? Haven't seen you take a picture with her for a while!" and then you'll sob over and over again, asking for a truck of tissue.
Once again, I repeat: I like couples that moderately show affection publicly on social media. I think it's cute, it's brilliant, it's good to be happy with your loved one. But once it becomes too excessive, you start to rely on image instead of a sincere relationship at its purest form. You are wanting to have a perfect relationship from the outsider's point of view. It becomes plastic.
A relationship is shared between you and your partner, not between both of you and your followers. Little moments should be private, and should be exclusive to both of you. That's what makes a relationship a relationship, right?
But then again, I haven't dated before, so who am I to judge, right? Maybe this was just a farce. Or maybe I'm just cringing at people, as I often do.
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